Why caregiver strategies are important
According to the Centers For Disease Control (CDC), one of the ways child abuse can be prevented in our society is by enhancing “parenting skills to promote healthy child development” and by creating “behavioral parent training programs.” Child abuse can be prevented by good parenting strategies and caregiver methods. These strategies will build resilience in children as well as strengthen family units.
One of those strategies has to do with discipline
Positive and thoughtful discipline is a strategy that can create better environments for children to thrive in. Decades ago, spanking and yelling to deter “misbehavior” was commonplace and often acceptable practices. Fortunately, things have changed. Physical discipline isn’t the only thing that impacts childhood experiences, the way you discipline a child can also impact their mental and spiritual health.
The difference between discipline and punishment
While discipline is aimed at teaching a child, punishment is used to deter bad behavior by applying a negative consequence after a misdeed. Punishment rarely gets a child to understand why they were punished, or what they did wrong. Most of the time, discipline is better at deterring a child from doing the misdeed again.
Tips on intentional discipline
- Focus on positive behavior. Emphasize what your child is doing right. This reinforces good behavior and helps your child associate the difference between encouraged and discouraged behavior.
- Be a positive role model. Always remember that children listen, see, and follow you. Exemplify the behavior you want to see in your kids, even when its hard.
- Listen and spend quality time with your children. By spending time with your child, you are building trust and observing how they view the world. By understanding the way they move through their lives, you can match discipline strategies to what works best for them.
- Have a support network. It really does take a village. Look online for support groups or professionals to help you in your path. Befriend other caregivers and see if you can learn from them and vice versa.
Overall, aim to be thoughtful
When thinking about disciplining your child, look to thoughtfulness. Take some time away from them if you are feeling too angry. If you are confused, look up resources or seek professional help. Keep the actions you make towards your children thoughtful.
Sources: Centers For Disease Control (CDC), Children’s Hospital of the King’s Daughters, and The Washington Post